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Recently, I have been wondering what brings two people together? Is it by chance, destiny or something else entirely that unites couples? Many centuries ago couples had no say in their futures. Wealthy families promised their sons and daughters to other prominent families and the deal was done once the children became age appropriate.

Many things have evolved since that period in history and one is the way we meet our future spouses. Some couples grow up in the same neighborhoods, perhaps meet during high school. Others meet while experiencing college. Blind dates or another sort of “fix up” can assist some with finding a mate, while relatively new, dating online has made matches.

However couples become a pair, the expectation is usually the same. We enter into these twosomes with one thing in mind…falling in love! After a period of courtship some pairs enter the engagement term while looking forward to binding their relationship through marriage. Through this phase of planning, most couples are becoming more and more committed; however, there are some that just want the attention a wedding initiates.

There are couples that enter the biggest commitment of their lives for all the wrong reasons. Entering forever with the wrong partner will surely bring heartbreak. I believe some of this heartbreak can be avoided, if people would just be honest before entering what is the biggest commitment of ones life. True love is definitely difficult to find, but taking vows with someone you know is not right for you is certainly doomed to fail.

We must not be persuaded, coaxed, berated, threatened or think it will probably work out – because these types of relationships are not meant to be. Why, then, do couples enter this type of allegiance when one or both are not totally sure? All sorts of reasons come to mind: fear, money, a way to escape, others expectations, age, conceiving children and many, many other rationales. Settling for someone you know is not for you is just sad. Not giving yourself a chance to find that person who could truly bring you joy and you to them, is selling oneself short.

Relationships are hard and do not always last, but if we start off with true love in our hearts and continue to grow and change through the years; our link, at least, has a fighting chance to survive. Of course some bonds are broken for other reasons that occur during marriage and that can be heartbreaking for both parties. We can not know the future, but we do know our hearts and if we are not certain at the beginning then the future could be detrimental. Needless to say, couples have entered into ill-fated relationships but perhaps those connections made them much wiser for the next encounter.

Do not let yourself marry or even waste time trying to convince yourself that a connection with someone is all you need. Life is too short and bonds are hard to obtain, but we should not settle! Remember respect is earned and although struggles may come, perhaps love can be your guide. Stand strong and enter relationships with open hearts, honesty, friendship, morals and values shared. Above all else I believe love is essential. A true love and not one of convenience. If we take the time to truly search our hearts, than perhaps interconnections will be meant for the hereafter.

Bonded by true love,

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