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Having had many different kinds of friends and acquaintances; neighborhood buddies, school age chums, college crazy types, and then those that have been part of all those and more…I wonder, could there be a time when some of these relationships just fizzle?

As an adult I thought I knew the difference between an acquaintance and a true, devoted friend. According to Merriam-Webster an acquaintance is someone whom you know, but is not particularly a close friend. A friend, however, is someone who is attached to another by affection or esteem.

Can acquaintances become close friends? Absolutely, sometimes the very best friend! What about the friend…can they become just an acquaintance? When I think about my friendships, I think of years of memories, commitments, laughter, tears, and those individuals, overall, being a very intricate and intimate part of my life. I am aware; however, that some best friendships can’t make the lifetime journey due to all kinds of circumstances. Those friendships fail, sometimes without notice, not unlike a car that without the slightest advance warning breaks down.

Losing touch with friends you once thought of as family, is so painful. How can we deal with the decline of a friendship we held so dear, will we move on and forget? Does the closeness just gradually surrender? Perhaps so, possibly it is out of our control. Whatever the reason, it is without a doubt, a difficult pill to swallow.

There are friendships that never take a turn down purgatory road. These are the people that you can go without talking to for months, years, even decades; but when you connect it is absolutely fabulous…not a beat forgotten! These friendships are not only priceless, but rare. I am so fortunate to have reconnected, recently, with several friends from my past.

As for the friends that I am slowly losing because of time or space; I am sorry. I’m sorry we have lost touch. I am sorry we think the years we were devoted to one another can survive on just a text. I am sorry that our lives have changed and taken us in different directions. It is an unfortunate turn of events, which I’m not only sorry about, but deeply saddened, as well.

For those of you who are steadfast, and have granted me the pleasure of your never ending friendship, I am forever grateful. Whether we are neighbors, school age friends, college crazy buddies, or friends that can never be denied…thank you, you are very special to me! It truly warms my heart to know you are a constant in my life. I can’t tell you how important these friendships are; we are certainly a lucky tribe!

Losing touch,

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